hey guyzz!! its nice to be back!! hmm well everytime i think or more like decide dat i wud write every once in a while....but i never seem to be able to do so!! well let it be....m still trying no ;) well as always my habit of overthinking everything has always been a trouble for me......bt it cant be helped i guess!! anyways...have uh guys ever thought about breaking the norms??? its much easier said than done!!
even though i m an indian n i m very much proud of it...its still i find it hard to ignore the darker aspect of this....!! yesterday i was in the college and met a friend of mine who was absent....for a long time..i came to know that she was in the hospital. it was supposed to be a secret but i was lucky that she find me considerable enough to sought my help!! :) i came to know thats she attempted suicide which resulted in her serious condition :/
the reason was revolting enough fr me to get hike up n now m putting it awl in my words here while speaking my heart out!! she belonged to a traditional joint family where woman are supposed to behave "woman like" and man are needed to be manly in short a typical indian family!! wat happened was she had started liking a guy from the college n had been in relationship since last December! and now her family found out abt the guy!!
her whole family is in chaos n everybody is blaming her for bringing shame to her family :( as if its not enough the elders or more like the "Mards" of the family have decided that now if she has enough guts to have an affair.then she is old enough to be married off :P yeahh she is likely going to be to get maried within a year....n worst is?? without her consent!!
she was crying so hard...i wasnt able to say a word :'( i was just stunned (once again mind uh :P ) by the stupidity of a society.....who thinks marriage is the solution of everything.....!! >_< if a girl is raped...marry her off!! if a girl is getting out of control(or called so) then marry her off!! if the guy's family arent asking for much (dahej) marry her off..who know when will be the next time they will be able to find such guy :P gosh!! i Dont know Wat kind of intelligence(or called so) they have :P
they didn't consider her dreams....even if she was in love she never did let it affect her studies.....she was one of those straight A type!! always making her family proud whether in academics or sports!!she wanted to be an IAS but now everything is ruined n wats more sad is ...she thinks she deserve this..i mean really?? do uh think she deserve her dreams being snatched away from her just because she loved sum one???
why is it always the girl who is being blamed for??this double standards are ridiculous >_< In india where we have a great number of female deities who are not only being worshipped but being feared also.....here the situation of female is so worse..its hard to believe!! In the latest surveys india is in top ten countries which are unsafe for females!! its such a shame..!!
But i guess that's how it is...or shud be !! a place where from the childhood onwards a girl is taught to endure .they are not suppose to oppose or shouldn't speak....aisa to hona hi tha!! In India everything is much harder.....surviving in "Shining India" is a challenge itself even more so if uh are a woman!! its like a war for females to dream n make their dreams come true!!
hmm even after saying awl these i think i cant ignore the positive aspects...that everything is changing!! :) i know its hard to believe but i can see the change...i can see it in myself!! a little girl is trying to find her identity n prove my worth. i can see it in my friends who even through awl the troubles are still struggling!! i can see it in my family...where my mom supports me so much!! dad has given me awl the freedom to choose my own path!! i can see myself growing slowly...understanding things day by day n i can see myself being happy even with awl the struggles because i guess its life :) the good thing uh know...my another friend have gotten admission in a medical university in Russia n she is going to move there in September!!
yesterday at the get together we awl gals shared our happiness!! it was a grt moment....:) i believe each of them will fight n will find their way out of awl this mess!! i wud like to think that someday i wud breathe in india which wud be mordern...a way more than wat it is now!! not just people having mordern infrastructure but having mordern midsets . India is a young country n i wud surely like to have my share in developing it :)
May be sumday...i guess !! ^_^ CYA!!
even though i m an indian n i m very much proud of it...its still i find it hard to ignore the darker aspect of this....!! yesterday i was in the college and met a friend of mine who was absent....for a long time..i came to know that she was in the hospital. it was supposed to be a secret but i was lucky that she find me considerable enough to sought my help!! :) i came to know thats she attempted suicide which resulted in her serious condition :/
the reason was revolting enough fr me to get hike up n now m putting it awl in my words here while speaking my heart out!! she belonged to a traditional joint family where woman are supposed to behave "woman like" and man are needed to be manly in short a typical indian family!! wat happened was she had started liking a guy from the college n had been in relationship since last December! and now her family found out abt the guy!!
her whole family is in chaos n everybody is blaming her for bringing shame to her family :( as if its not enough the elders or more like the "Mards" of the family have decided that now if she has enough guts to have an affair.then she is old enough to be married off :P yeahh she is likely going to be to get maried within a year....n worst is?? without her consent!!
she was crying so hard...i wasnt able to say a word :'( i was just stunned (once again mind uh :P ) by the stupidity of a society.....who thinks marriage is the solution of everything.....!! >_< if a girl is raped...marry her off!! if a girl is getting out of control(or called so) then marry her off!! if the guy's family arent asking for much (dahej) marry her off..who know when will be the next time they will be able to find such guy :P gosh!! i Dont know Wat kind of intelligence(or called so) they have :P
they didn't consider her dreams....even if she was in love she never did let it affect her studies.....she was one of those straight A type!! always making her family proud whether in academics or sports!!she wanted to be an IAS but now everything is ruined n wats more sad is ...she thinks she deserve this..i mean really?? do uh think she deserve her dreams being snatched away from her just because she loved sum one???
why is it always the girl who is being blamed for??this double standards are ridiculous >_< In india where we have a great number of female deities who are not only being worshipped but being feared also.....here the situation of female is so worse..its hard to believe!! In the latest surveys india is in top ten countries which are unsafe for females!! its such a shame..!!
But i guess that's how it is...or shud be !! a place where from the childhood onwards a girl is taught to endure .they are not suppose to oppose or shouldn't speak....aisa to hona hi tha!! In India everything is much harder.....surviving in "Shining India" is a challenge itself even more so if uh are a woman!! its like a war for females to dream n make their dreams come true!!
hmm even after saying awl these i think i cant ignore the positive aspects...that everything is changing!! :) i know its hard to believe but i can see the change...i can see it in myself!! a little girl is trying to find her identity n prove my worth. i can see it in my friends who even through awl the troubles are still struggling!! i can see it in my family...where my mom supports me so much!! dad has given me awl the freedom to choose my own path!! i can see myself growing slowly...understanding things day by day n i can see myself being happy even with awl the struggles because i guess its life :) the good thing uh know...my another friend have gotten admission in a medical university in Russia n she is going to move there in September!!
yesterday at the get together we awl gals shared our happiness!! it was a grt moment....:) i believe each of them will fight n will find their way out of awl this mess!! i wud like to think that someday i wud breathe in india which wud be mordern...a way more than wat it is now!! not just people having mordern infrastructure but having mordern midsets . India is a young country n i wud surely like to have my share in developing it :)
May be sumday...i guess !! ^_^ CYA!!
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